Monday, June 1, 2009

A What? A Friend????

Kai Kai and his mommy, Aubdog, are flying in for a visit next week. Motor Mouth and Kai Kai were best buddies in Oklahoma, so they will be extremely happy to see each other again and spend 4 days together. Of course, I'm looking forward to seeing Aubdog again!

With Aubdog coming, it makes me think of my New Year's goal to develop deeper female relationships. Aubdog and Pinky are 2 of my closest friends in Tulsa. I give the credit of our friendship to them. They are great at being friends. Me? Not so much. 
I'm discovering myself to be rather introverted and a bit of a loner. There are lots of people I call friends, but we don't talk on the phone every day, nor do we hang out every few days or weekly. Or even monthly, really.

It's me. It's from my family of non-women frienders. The only reasons I talk to my mom and my sister almost daily is because I have their numbers memorized and I have free long-distance to Canada...and I like to get my money's worth. Of course, I love them and we laugh when we talk, but if I didn't call them, they wouldn't call me either. Mom would call weekly, I think. Optimus would never call. Which is fine, because usually when she calls, it's to tell me someone died. 
A few months ago, when my uncle passed away, my mom called. I stopped her and said that if she was calling to tell me my uncle died, she should hang up and let Optimus Prime do it. She did. That would have been like setting the eco system out of balance. Can't have that. 
I'm trying to change and become a better friend to the ladies in my life. But I'm struggling. I don't know how to do it. I don't like shopping, though I suppose I could go with them if that is what they wanted to do. I often have children in tow, and same with them, so I guess we could find kid friendly spaces. Not really one to talk on the phone, though B-Mom and I can talk for hours on the phone. *-sigh-* I'm not a good girl friend. I think I make a better girlfriend. 

3 comments:

Jen of A2eatwrite said...

Who said there's a rule about what makes a good friend?

If your friends "get you" then that's all that matters.

Out-Numbered said...

Maybe you just haven't found the right friends. It's tough when you have a ton of other priorities in your life. Don't over think it. Just have a good time and listen. That's all you need to do... I'll be your friend. :-)

Threeundertwo said...

I think a lot of us who blog are introverted like this. You described me and my family. Which reminds me. . .I need to call my sister.