Sunday, January 3, 2010

Pass or Fail?

Yes, it's another year end reflection but I'm going to be honest. Really honest.

2009 was a great and wonderful year continuing to build our lives in a new city. Lots of changes. I've had a hard time adjusting to some of the changes.

I thought things would be great when both kids started school. I thought I knew how to do the working mom thing. I thought wrong.

My home has not been really clean since August. I have not cooked every day (or even every week) since August. I have not hung out with friends, done an outstanding job on volunteer work, completed anything I started, or kept up with laundry. Don't ask about grocery shopping.

If I were to be graded on every area of my life, I would fail. I did not excel in any area at the detriment of the others. I sucked across the board. I'm not happy with how things went and I'm sure there are a lot of people who are not happy with me as well.

The last 2 weeks were about getting my life back on track. I literally and figuratively cleaned house. I went back to basics. Our home is clean. The baseboards are clean. The closets are clean. The laundry is put away. I've cooked and baked. And yes, I've spent time with my husband and children. It was wonderful. It was a great reminder of the me I fell in love with after moving to Chicago.

My goal for 2010 is to figure out a way to maintain a balance in our lives. There will be changes. My family deserves to live in a happy, organized home. I'm not trying to be supermom. I just want to be a mom that is on her game so her husband and kids can be happy.


Jen of A2eatwrite said...

That balance is sooooooo touch. Let me know if you want to brainstorm on this some time. I've done the full time work thing, part-time, being at home, being at home with a homeschooler - the whole gamut. I don't think there's a perfect balance, just moments in one's life and sometimes things seem to click more easily.

Jen of A2eatwrite said...

er... tough, not touch.

Shan said...

It is not an easy thing to accomplish. Sometimes I think I manage better than others. Now with Mike having so many evening obligations with his increased volunteering role, I need to figure out a way to manage everything better as well.

Anonymous said...

You have inspired me to do the same in my house. I pray that we are both succesfull.

Marty said...

I have gone through so much myself in 2009. I am a small business owner of 4 small business that got hit hard in 2009. I crashed in August of last year.

I wrote about similiar things, and the process of expression helped so much.

You are starting off right. Take things off the plate, handle the small stuff, leave room for more focus, and bring joy to the top of the priority list.


Sunny Roller said...

I came across this old article in newsweek and it made me think back to this post of yours.