Monday, October 19, 2009

What Should They Have Told You?

Our Calling All Mom's ministry at church held a session entitled: "A.N.G.E.R. Management - Anger in Moms and Children", taught by the supremely knowledgeable and practical Mindy Meier. We were hoping for 35-40 ladies. We got close to 100. 

That evening, I purchased 'She's Gonna Blow: Real help for moms dealing with anger', by Julie Ann Barnhill. Julie starts off talking about the first time she spoke on anger at a Hearts at Home conference. She was hoping 12 women signed up for her session. 1 out of 5 attendees signed up, she had to speak twice on 2 days! 

People. Women make it seem like being a mom is the greatest, most wonderful thing in the world. It is. But it really isn't at the same time. Why do we have to perpetuate this myth that momhood is perfect and easy. It's time we came out of the cleaning closet and are honest about life. Honest about ourselves.

I wish someone had told me how frustrating and, at times, anger-producing being a stay@home mom is. Maybe I would have gone in to it prepared, instead of beating myself up about being a horrible mother.

What do you wish someone had told you? At any stage in life at all. What do you wish people had told you?


Shari said...

I wish they would have told me that I would literally kill another person if I thought that person would harm my children. It could be physical or mental, but if I think you are going to harm my children, I have to restrain myself. I never thought I would be capable of such a thought.

FaithChick said...

I wish that they would have told me that I would lose who I am to transform to super mom. Your whole identity becomes the about the kids. Also I wish someone would have told me about the judgement you get from other moms when you dont do things the way that THEY think that it should be done. You raise your kids your way and I will raise my kids my way. Just sayin. Glad to get that off my chest. =)